Gotta tell someone

Ok, what I'm about to post about is something I'm not even telling my mom. I don't want anyone to know right now but I have to tell someone, and you guys are it. None of my family will show up here.

The pediatrician suggested testing for Patrick. She said she sees some autism markers and also some adhd signs. She said he is perfectly normal right now for his age. But some of the things I've mentioned set off red flags with her like the fact that he rarely makes eye contact. She wants to get him evaluated now because support from social services really dies after about the age of 5. So he'll either get tested and be totally fine, or they'll find he has some issues and we'll work on them. Even if the tests are normal, at least he'll have his name in the system so if something comes up later we'll already be there and won't have troubles getting him seen.

I admit I'm a bit freaked out. I don't want my mom, grandma etc to be sad or upset. I don't want their pity and I really don't want them blowing this out of proportion. I have never hid anything before. Is it terrible to wait till after the testing to even mention any of this??